Most birth parents choose to place their child into an adoptive family because they are unable to provide the lifestyle they want for the child. It's a choice that is made with love as well as certain degree of common sense. Often, the decision is also made with the best intentions for the parents' future as well, and many birth mothers and fathers will pursue a career and family sometime after placing his or her child with an adoptive family.
The decision to place a child with an adoptive family is one that has many state laws regulating how active each birth parent needs to be in adoption process and consent. Birth mother rights are more often clearer than birth father rights and while many states require adoption professionals to attempt to reach out to prospective birth fathers, they have considerably fewer rights.
If you are a birth parent who didn't elect to have an open adoption, it's important to familiarize yourself with your post-adoption rights and to prepare for the possibility that the child you placed may one day attempt to contact you with questions about your life post-placement and the placement decision. Thousands of adoptees register for search services every month, according to the Adoptee Search Center & Registry. Parents should also consider the possibility of wanting to search as well. Around monumental times in one's life, such as a graduation, birth, death, or marriage, one may be more inclined to search out of curiosity.
Adoptees aren't the only ones in an adoption that may question things. It's very common for a birth parent to question his or her decision, especially as they settle down after the adoption or receive updates from the adoptive family about the placed child. Finding a support group to voice any regret or guilt later after placement is something that can help birth parents work through complex and irreversible choices.
Coping with the decision to place a child is different for each birth mother and father, and it's completely normal for birth parents to feel curious about the child they placed around the time of that child's developmental milestones, such as starting school, graduating, going to college or getting married. If you're a birth parent and questioning your choice, remember you made the best decision for your child.
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Putative Father Registry
Post Adoption Services
Looking for my Dad
April 10, 2014, 11:07 am
I just found out who my birth parents are. I'm 58 years old born in Hawaii on Aug 23, 1955. My birth father was a Navy 3rd class Seaman. He was stationed in Hawaii in 1954 to 1955. He meet my birth mother, her name is Isabelle (Bella) Valentin or Freitas during that time. His family is from...1950 in Denver CO
April 6, 2014, 3:20 am
I am female and was born April 2, 1950 in Denver, CO., but I was born at St. Anthony's Hospital and was adopted. I do not know my birth parents name, but was told I might possibly have two or three older siblings. That's all I know. Does any of this sound familiar or not....
Measuring Interest in Reunions
April 7, 2014, 5:52 pm
Over time, I've read about adoptees and birth parents going through a wide range of emotions after reunion. These might range from extreme happiness, a need to be with the birth relative, and a strong desire to communicate. They may also involve a deep sense of loss, feelings of anger, or...ISO Birth Parents Byers (M) & Glover (D)
April 7, 2014, 4:43 pm
ISO of birth parents Byers (born 1951) and Glover (born 1944). 2 children born 6/68 (Los Angeles, CA) & 12/69 (Maywood, CA). Both children adopted by the same family in 1974.
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