Most birth parents choose to place their child into an adoptive family because they are unable to provide the lifestyle they want for the child. It's a choice that is made with love as well as certain degree of common sense. Often, the decision is also made with the best intentions for the parents' future as well, and many birth mothers and fathers will pursue a career and family sometime after placing his or her child with an adoptive family.
The decision to place a child with an adoptive family is one that has many state laws regulating how active each birth parent needs to be in adoption process and consent. Birth mother rights are more often clearer than birth father rights and while many states require adoption professionals to attempt to reach out to prospective birth fathers, they have considerably fewer rights.
If you are a birth parent who didn't elect to have an open adoption, it's important to familiarize yourself with your post-adoption rights and to prepare for the possibility that the child you placed may one day attempt to contact you with questions about your life post-placement and the placement decision. Thousands of adoptees register for search services every month, according to the Adoptee Search Center & Registry. Parents should also consider the possibility of wanting to search as well. Around monumental times in one's life, such as a graduation, birth, death, or marriage, one may be more inclined to search out of curiosity.
Adoptees aren't the only ones in an adoption that may question things. It's very common for a birth parent to question his or her decision, especially as they settle down after the adoption or receive updates from the adoptive family about the placed child. Finding a support group to voice any regret or guilt later after placement is something that can help birth parents work through complex and irreversible choices.
Coping with the decision to place a child is different for each birth mother and father, and it's completely normal for birth parents to feel curious about the child they placed around the time of that child's developmental milestones, such as starting school, graduating, going to college or getting married. If you're a birth parent and questioning your choice, remember you made the best decision for your child.
Act of Love Adoption Agency Announces 20 Years of Successful Open Adoptions
Respected Utah Adoption Agency, Act of Love Adoptions, is pleased to announce that for over twenty years birth parents, children and adoptive families are enjoying the success of healthy open adoptions. (PRWeb February 27, 2014) Read the full story at...Adoptive mom says DCF retaliated for Herald tip
An adoptive mom who sounded the alarm in the Herald yesterday over four at-risk kids being pushed to visit their abusive birth parents has been put on the hot seat by the beleaguered Department of Children and Families for speaking out. A DCF social worker yesterday called the woman
N.J. bill on adoptees' right to birth certificates advances
TRENTON A measure to allow adoptees over 18 in New Jersey access to their original birth certificates passed both the Senate and Assembly on Thursday.Adopted adults fight to find parents
A bill now before Connecticut lawmakers would allow those who are adopted to see their birth records when they turn 21.
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Long complicated case..need support and help!!!
February 26, 2014, 9:03 am
One year ago two baby girls were placed with us (1 y/o & 3 m/o). Girls were in custody due to domestic abuse and neglect. For the first few months, birth parents came for visitation, but did nothing to follow DCS recommendations. When case was transerfed to new CW (due to biomom's verbal abuse...Half-Brother looking for Half-Sister Born Aug. 1959
February 21, 2014, 12:54 pm
Birth Mother has passed (I am the middle child not counting the baby girl that was adopted) I am looking for a girl, born August 4 1959 at Lake Charles Memorial Hospital in Louisiana. The adoption was handled by the Jones Firm in Cameron Louisiana. Birth parents were Patricia S. Sweeney and Louis C...
Feb 27 1964 male
February 27, 2014, 6:51 pm
Today is my birthday. I was born in Staten Island Hospital and I was adopted through the Louise Wise Agency. I am looking for either of my birth parents or any relatives. I hope we can connect. ThankHurray for Ohio!
February 23, 2014, 6:46 am
[QUOTE=1956CheverlyAdoptee]Bernie, I know that a year may sound like forever but the good news is that Ohio adoption reunion laws were just changed>>> The reason for the wait till March 2015 is that birth parents will be given the opportunity to file for you NOT to have their names . If they do...
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