Closed adoption, also called a confidential or traditional adoption, refers to an adoption in which there is no relationship between the adoptive family and birth parents. In a closed adoption, the birth parents and adoptive family arrange the adoption via a facilitator, attorney or a case worker at an agency. Neither member of the adoption triad knows identifying information about the other. By opting for a closed adoption, a future birth mother is trying to have as little involvement as possible with the placement process. For some women, this is a way to distance themselves from the emotional decisions associated with placement. However, the distance is something many adopters fear will make it easier for a birth mother to change her mind about placement.
Closed adoptions differ from the somewhat more revealing semi-open adoption, in which triad members are on a first-name basis. The future birth mother in a semi-open adoption will play a decisive role in child placement.
Some birth parents and adoptive parents may worry than anything but an open adoption can lead to discontent as the child develops, but a study conducted in 1996 by Child Development suggested that children would rather feel secure in their adoptive family than be in contact with their birth parents.
Choosing between an open and closed adoption depends entirely on the adoptive family's preferences. It's strongly advised that couples that do not entirely support an open adoption should not engage in one. However, it's more rare to find an agency or attorney that is completely comfortable with a closed adoption and will not suggest a semi-open adoption to a birth mother.
It's equally important adopters understand that in a closed adoption little to no information will be exchanged with the birth parents, including their choice to arrange an adoption with the couple. This can feel like a distant business deal for some adoptive couples who want to know the nuances and personality of the mother of the child they're being placed with. Other adoptive parents may feel the separation of adoptive and birth parent eliminates possible instability an openly known birth mother's lifestyle may bring into a family dynamic. Also, in an open adoption, if communication is lost between the birth mother and adoptee, the child may become confused and hurt.
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March 24, 2014, 1:14 pm
Having a hard time coming up with the right words, so please take that into consideration, and ask if something doesn't make sense. Several times when the topic of permanency comes up for wee little ones - whether it is foster care, or domestic adoption, the parents, or legislature - the...Kinship Question
February 28, 2014, 7:23 am
I have had my AD baby 1/2 sister for almost a month. Bmom attorney is fighting saying she is not kinship cause we have a closed adoption which therefore makes no connection! Baby may have paternal relatives interested in placement of her. No viable maternal relatives. Bdad said he cannot...
February 26, 2014, 12:58 pm
[QUOTE=apf1964]I'm a BirthMother who placed my daughter through a closed adoption in Shreveport, LA. I lived in New Orleans, LA at that time. I now reside in Santa Fe, NM. Yes, it is in the USA with zip 87507..lol[/QUOTE] Hi, just wanting to see when the girl was born. I'm searching for my...Moving out of bio parents area and open adoption...
March 19, 2014, 2:24 pm
We adopted our daughter in September of last year after almost two years of fostering her. We live in a closed adoption state and any contact between families is handled privately after adoption and not monitored or litigated in any way. Her parents are young and cognitively delayed and could...
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