Defining the characteristics of a perfect family dynamic is more difficult than one would think. It's is influenced by a number of personal biases. The idea of a well-functioning household is, to some extent, regulated by the law and self-regulated by morals values and religious beliefs as well as one's social standing.
The concept of a centered household is something that has long been revised, be it noticed via the depictions in movies, women breaking through the glass ceiling, or the rise in gay and lesbian rights. With these changing times, no group is more affected by shifts in dynamics than those in the adoption community. More and more, those who were once considered non-traditional adopters are receiving more opportunities to adopt. Gay and lesbian rights are being explicitly recognized by some states (some in favor and others not). Individual adopters are getting the chance to be single parents. Older couples are able to choose from more international countries than before.
The focus of adoption has always been hearth and home, though. Reuniting a child with his or her birth parents is a goal of the half of all foster care cases in the U.S., and for those waiting children, which comprise a fourth of the foster care populace, they are among the hardest adoptees to place. After months or years of moving from home to home, permanency becomes imperative to their social development and sense of stability. Therefore, there's a lot of pressure on case workers to find the ideal household.
So, what makes the ideal home life? Is it a single-income household with a stay-at-home mother? Is it a couple located in an upscale suburban neighborhood with access to better school systems? Is it parents who are devout to a particular religion? May all of those are true. Or, maybe none of those are applicable. Think back to when you were growing up and you realized the way your friend's family had dinner together was different than the way you did. Or, think about every time fellow parents make a parenting decisions that make you cringe a little.
No one is perfect and there is no ideal mold that parents can come out of. But there are family dynamics that are perfect enough.
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December 5, 2013, 11:57 am
Hi all, this is my first post, so please excuse any errors. My husband I have three children and have always wanted a larger family. We decided recently that we were in a good place (financially and otherwise) to look into adoption. Our oldest is disabled and we have always felt like we should...Exactly one year later...
December 5, 2013, 9:01 am
It is still hard to look up past threads from your profile- guess they are working on this. But I managed to find my thread from exactly one year ago today- getting the call for our first dear baby- "Squeaks". I had no idea what we were getting into- especially as barren folks with no kids of...
December 5, 2013, 2:35 pm
[QUOTE=loveajax]Btw, this is from the state of Oregon's DHS foster/adoption website...you can see it makes it sound as if foster families have the "priority"... Some children are placed with other family members or non-related adults with whom they have a significant attachment. Foster...Please....is there hope?
December 5, 2013, 1:35 pm
I am a foster parent in Oregon. I know and understand that laws very from state to state but it seems to me that Oregon(Among other states) has it wrong when it comes to adopting out of foster care. Here is my situation... We have been fostering Baby Jar from the moment he came into this...
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