Open adoption refers to an adoption arrangement, either pre-finalization or post-adoption, in which an adoptee's birth parents and adoptive parents meet one another. There are varying levels of open adoption and the kind of relationship between the parents. Semi-open adoption, for example, refers to an relationship in which the triad members operate on a first-name basis and do not reveal overly personal information to one another. A traditionally open adoption means the triad members know the other person's first and last name as well as certain identifying information such as a mailing address or phone number.
Open adoption relationships are most common in infant adoptions and are used when a birth mother wants to be active in the placement process of the infant. While an open relationship during the placement process can put her mind at ease and lower the chances of a birth mother changing her mind, choosing to maintain a relationship after placement is a tough decision that makes many adoptive parents uneasy. Before working toward an adoption arrangement, a couple should decide on whether or not they want a closed, semi-open or open adoption experience.
Adoptions that stay very open after the placement, consent and finalization of an adoption are sometimes called cooperative adoptions if the birth parents make in-person visits with the adoptee.
Open adoption is a oft debated preference that has convincing arguments for and against it. People that support open adoption feel that it takes the mystery away from birth parents as an adoptee matures. Adoptive parents also feel that establishing a relationship with the birth mother before the adoption is finalized may also reduce the chance of her changing her mind about placing the child.
There are practical reasons to stay in touch with an adoptee's birth parents. Health updates, for example, may be useful. Having a birth parent in an adoptee's post-placement life may work for some family dynamics. It can also help a birth mother cope with her decision. Sending photos or updates about the adoptee once or twice a year may help her feel she made the right decision during rough times.
Pregnant women looking to place and couples seeking placement should be open about what they want out of an adoption before finding an agency or becoming pressured into a post-placement situation neither party is fully comfortable with.
See Also: open adoption records
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May 16, 2013, 8:23 pm
Hi, I would also like to hear from any families who have adopted multiple children, some with closed adoption and some with open. I wonder like the thread starter - would the child with the closed adoption struggle even more with their own loss because the open adoption relationship is a part...hugs
May 13, 2013, 6:52 pm
Its true that it really depends on your relationship with the aparents. I go out of my way to be as accommodating as possible even though sometimes its hard. But 9 years in and I have full contact with dd. I have a friend who has an open adoption with her ds but she only visits with him once a year...
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May 15, 2013, 4:24 am
We were in classes pursuing our foster parent license when I became aware of a situation with a family within our church family. girl11 was in a unhealthy situation and we offered her mom for girl11 to come stay with us a couple days until she was able to correct some things at home. Mom quickly...Bios are like family!
May 23, 2013, 7:42 pm
I am just curious to see if my situation is rare. I have an open adoption by my choice. We see my son's birth family(paternal side) almost every week. We got to their house, park, dinner and shopping. They are truly my extended family. I was really scared at first because I never expected to have...