Reflections of an Adult Adoptee
People thought that because she was adopted, she must know everything about adoption. Friends would ask her about adoption, the hows and the whys, and she had no answers. She didn't know about adoption. She knew she was adopted. And she knew she'd lived with fear for several decades. Fear? Why... Healing My Daughter's Brain
My daughter had a plan to commit suicide this spring, and it was a wake-up call that I will never forget. For many years, we have felt that our daughter, whom we adopted from China at the age of 1 year, had some symptoms of attachment disorder. She was very controlling and manipulative. She... Older Child Adoption - Becoming a Family Part 2
"The Departure that Almost Didn't Happen" At the end of 1997, there was concern that Russia might close down in regards to adoptions. Everyone was scurrying to make sure all of us with identified children got them out before the end of the year. It really was going faster than I wanted (I'm... Trauma and Attachment
As the adoption of special needs children rises in this country, so does the need for adequate post adoption services. The current condition of post adoption services in most states still reflects the old adage of "just give them enough love and they'll be fine." This was probably true during the...
Did Ted Bundy Have RAD?
June 23, 2013, 11:02 pm
It's a long story, but I just finished reading a book about Ted Bundy. The book I read,†The Stranger Beside Me, was written by Ann Rule, a former Seattle cop-turned-writer who just happened to work with Ted Bundy on a suicide hotline in the early 1970s. Ms. Rule had already started researching... When Talking to Friends Doesn't Help
May 12, 2013, 10:29 pm
Parents of Reactive Attachment Disorder kids are caught in a bind. On the one hand, few of us just happen to have within our circle of intimates close friends who are also parenting RAD kids. On the other hand, we need a lot of support from our friends exactly because we are parenting in such a... Why Can't I Reap What I Sow?
April 5, 2013, 7:30 pm
It is SO frustrating to be my daughter's mom for nine, count 'em nine, years, and she STILL won't come to me with a problem. I know all the background about brains that didn't form vital connections, fight or flight, reactive attachment disorder, fetal alcohol impaired social skills and so forth....
Adoptive Motherís Story
Hi, I am 38 years old, and because my husband and I couldn't have children, we adopted two beautiful children, siblings, 4 years ago. Our family was perfect ,so we thought.Our son at the time of... Healing My Daughter's Brain
My daughter had a plan to commit suicide this spring, and it was a wake-up call that I will never forget. For many years, we have felt that our daughter, whom we adopted from China at the age of 1... Sibling Adoption and One Adoption Failing after Finalization
It wasn't until a summer afternoon in August 2008, four years after the adoption, that I found the courage to begin to write the "un-writable," a chronicle of my family's fall into, and...